Saturday, April 7, 2012 by Abiola Abrams
We dated for six whole months. He was sweet, smart and I liked him but more importantly he was in giddy, falling down, unstoppable love with me. Homeboy couldn’t get enough of me. This wonderful guy was either buying me gifts or talking about what he wanted to do for me next. Sounds like a match made in heaven, right? Wrong!
I eventually broke up with him because that rush of excitement I felt when we were together had nothing to do with my feelings for him. I could take him or leave him. I was gaga for how he felt about me.
If that sounds narcissistic it totally is, but we all do it to some extent. It’s human nature to like people who like us first. So many girls fall head-over-heels for a dude just because he likes her without stopping to ask, do I really like him?
So do you like him-like him? Or are you just in full blown love with all of the attention he gives you? And how do you know if you really like him?
Here’s how to tell…
You like HIM if… you feel inspired to do sweet things for him.
You love the ATTENTION if… you’re excited only to see what sweet things he’ll do for you next.
You like HIM if… your heart goes pitter patter whenever he calls or texts.
You love the ATTENTION if… you can take his calls or leave them.
You like HIM if… you blab non-stop to your BFFs about his awesome qualities.
You love the ATTENTION if… yeah, he’s cool but you could pop him out and pop any other dude in without missing a beat.
You like HIM if… the conversations between you two are always give and take.
You love the ATTENTION if… when you’re with him it’s still the ME Show. You both gush about you.
You like HIM if… you have eyes only for him even if other guys are around.
You love the ATTENTION if… you’re always looking over your shoulder just in case there’s someone better.
Get it? Got it? Good!
True love is a two-way street. You should both feel like you got lucky when you met. If you don’t really like him, keeping him around as a BF of convenience is just not cool. It’s awful love karma.
If he’s not making your heart do back flips, throw that fish back into the sea so his heart can be captured by someone who will return his affections. Someone you can like, love and respect is out there. And you’ll be so much happier once you find them